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Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. Hi there, My name is Raman and I recently joined bluevoices and this will be my first thread on something I recently endured and learnt. I'm 32 years of age, a former sufferer of depression for around 12 years and was recently in a relationship with an amazing woman who suffered major anxiety and PTSD. Her past was not a pretty one, at all. However she as a bright as the sun and covered up her scars well. Over the 3 months we were together I can say that this was by far the most challenging relationship I had ever been in.
If you are dating someone with PTSD, then having a therapy dog will be helpful for the recovery of your partner. Not only will the dog bring happiness to both of you, but also give security and comfort to your partner, which can help him or her get over sleepless nights.
someone you care about suffers from post-traumatic stress disorder Take a fitness class together, go dancing, or set a regular lunch date. When you're dating someone with PTSD, more emotional baggage is In fact, one of the most damaging aspects of this disorder is the effect it While therapy is available to help them to learn how to manage their symptoms. A woman with PTSD shares what it's like to date with PTSD. Post-traumatic Stress Disorder. We're a community that supports each other by.
When triggered, people with PTSD may act irrationally, and you should be ready to deal with them. PTSD patients may suffer from nightmares, headache, dry mouth, muscle aches, repetitive motions, blurred vision, nervous tics, emotional withdrawal or even have difficulty in telling what is true and what is imaginary. On a date, your partner may become nervous, get irritated easily or look really anxious.
People who have PTSD are commonly victims of rape, or survivors from a war or many other traumatic events. In general, they are not willing to talk about their experiences because they fear that they might experience the pain associated to those bad memories again.
Bear in mind that part of the healing process is to let your partner talk about the traumatic event.
6 Things I Learned from Dating Someone with PTSD
The more your partner talks about that traumatic past, the faster he or she will heal from it. People with PTSD may sometimes become jaded and think of the world as an unsafe and cruel place. If you are dating someone with PTSD, it is important to reassure your partner that nothing is going to hurt him or her and you will always be there to offer full protection. In this case, details can go a long way. You can establish a regular routine like time for meals, minimize stress at home by giving your partner enough private time and space, make great plans for future together, and always keep your promises no matter it is about which movie to watch or about when to have vocation.
Taking care of your partner who is suffering from PTSD is very important, but at the same time never neglect your own needs. You need to take good care of yourself in order to take good care of other people.
You should get enough quality sleep, eat well, exercise regularly, hang out with friends, develop your own hobbies, and know your limits and let friends, family, support groups or professionals to help when necessary. It will only make your partner feel useless if you always make decisions for him or her, especially on little things. Help your partner get back on track by letting him or her decide on certain things.
For example, ask your partner if he or she wants to wear the white coat or blue one.
But do not overwhelm him or her with big decisions like asking your partner which house to buy or whether or not you should quit your job. PTSD sufferers usually use anger as an emotion to cover up for their guilt or even fear.
When dating someone with PTSD, you should look out for signs indicating your partner is angry, like talking loudly, clenching jaw or trembling fist or body, try your best to remain calm and rational, ask him or her what you can do to help and call if necessary.PTSD / Trauma and Relationships
You have not only had the experience with depression but you also have a sense of clarity and understanding with this illness as well. It is a pretty good summary of many of the things my wife had to go through while attempting to look after me.
She also had work, housework, looking after our child and more. There's only a couple of things I'd like to add, if I may. Though the actual number of symptoms can be much larger.
Fortunately or me this period was not overlong, though it came and went. There is a reward at the end.
As time went on I came to see my wife and was able more and more to offer back the love and care she had given me so freely. Hi Raman.
I just wanted to thank you for your very kind and informative post about things to be aware of when dating someone who has experienced rape and who suffers ongoing anxiety and PTSD. I am one of those people!
And I really appreciate that there are people out there like you who care, and who can see past the symptoms and low points of those of us who endure the debilitating symptoms that come with PTSD as a result of rape. It is common for survivors of sexual violence to experience many confusing feelings which create anxiety, anger, distrust and the feeling that they are not safe.
Everyone's response to trauma is a little different, however I think that the overriding thing partners need to do, is to learn to be patient with them. The 6 points you mentioned in your opening post, all allude to the need for patience.
Dating someone who struggles with mental health conditions is not from a romantic partner is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). PTSD is. Dealing with friends or family members who have post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD may not be easy. Most of the time, they experience anger, irritability. There's nothing that can make you feel as powerless as living with a partner with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). For three years, I was in.
All very true, in my own personal experience. Raman, I commend you on your kind understanding and obvious patience during what would have been an emotionally difficult time for you.
Its nice to see that there are still some good men out there!
Dating someone with ptsd anxiety and depression
Well done you. Thanks for your response and I'm so glad to hear you had a support network. Something I didn't have a lot of at the time. Means a lot for you to comment and hear from someone who endured what she did. Patience was most certainly key, in fact, a new kind of patience altogether. Thanks for the kind comments and I hope you are well and definitely sound like a great person and strong one at that :.
People with post-traumatic stress disorder share what they wish loved ones better friends and family understood about loving someone with PTSD. that have happened right then and there, to meet people, to date, etc. When you meet and start dating someone you like, the natural . know I had chronic anxiety from to followed by depression for the. When you're dating someone with complex post-traumatic stress disorder, however, it might sometimes feel like there is more bad than good.
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RandR Champion Alumni. Regards, Raman. Hi Raman A remarkable informative post. Thankyou Tony WK. Thank you Tony.
How Dating Someone with PTSD Changed My Perspective and have a formal conversation about post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
Thanks for taking the time to read it and for the kind comments. What an inspirational thread!