What words... super, a remarkable idea
- by Togor
- 3 comments
I braced my fingers against the warm mug and glanced nervously again at the coffee shop door, waiting. I might have known better than to get myself into this. I mean, asking to meet for coffee with the Proverbs 31 Woman? Besides, so many other women seem to dislike this impossibly perfect lady. After all, she grows certified organic food, weaves her own clothing from ethically-sourced wool, and would never even think to waste an hour on Netflix. Yet viewing her as just another unattainable standard of womanhood to make the rest of us look bad seemed backwards to me.
There was no way I could measure up. After reading yet another blog post about the Proverbs 31 Virtuous Woman, however, I eventually caved. When was the last time I read for myself what the Bible says about the Proverbs 31 Woman?
When was the last time I actually read about the Proverbs 31 Woman in the Bible? What is a Proverbs 31 Woman really? So I decided to do just that. And then I read some more books and articles too And what I found surprised me…. She is worth far more than rubies. Rather, they were spoken to King Lemuel by his mother as advice to her son not to her daughter s or to daughters everywhere.
Have you ever heard of the acronym for B. Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth? Easy to remember. I like it. Because while there are many, many verses of instructions for Godly living in the Bible, not every Bible verse is a command or instruction. And while we can absolutely benefit from every verse in the Bible, not every verse in the Bible was written to or about us.
Listen, son of my womb!
Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers! Personal Struggles. Single or Married and the Proverbs 31 Lady. Yeah, amazing. Love the Lord above all things. Be my husbands 1 cheerleader. Be my husbands 1 prayer warrior. Put him before me. Create a home of peace and joy for him to come to. Love him like Jesus loves me. Married Gals! Chelsea Ejimakor. Great post!!! Amanda K. Posted on February 25, by Bethany Beal.
Free e-book. Recent Posts.
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. Remember, all have fallen short of the glory of God.
You need not strive for perfection. In fact, striving for perfection this side of heaven will leave you feel empty time and time again. God made each of us unique. You can be a Proverbs 31 woman — you simply need to believe that Jesus is the Son of God, that He came and died for you that you may have eternal life, and ask Him to forgive your sins.
Then, love Him with all of your heart, mind, and soul! We are also talking about a woman who understands grace. Grace for herself and grace for others.
Without Christ, we are nothing. But with Christ all things are possible. I have Christ on my side. Instead, the robe of righteous will cover my sins. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Just as faith is what makes the Proverbs 31 a virtuous woman, it is your faith that redeems you.
We can all be proverbs 31 women. You can be a proverbs 31 woman.
Proverbs 31 is one of those passages that can bring up varied emotions. Some feel intimidated by it; some cherish the passage, while others. Sure, I had read about the Proverbs 31 woman in the Bible at some point NOT: “Christian women, you must do EVERY SINGLE ONE of these. When I accepted a position working for Proverbs 31 Ministries, I felt like a hypocrite. In no way did I consider myself a “Proverbs 31 Woman.”.
In fact, God says you are already His! All you have to do is believe. And your purpose, ultimately, is to serve a risen Savior. Commit your life to Christ. Allow Him to come into your heart and lead, guide and direct your steps.
Can I Be a Proverbs 31 Woman if I'm Single?
You want to give up your own selfish desires and ambitions and die to self. When you pray and study and allow your every though to be taken captive, you are strengthening your faith and girding your loins, ready for battle.
You can also study the 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman and determine how God would have you implement them in your own life. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Let them pray. Is anyone happy? Let them sing songs of praise. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. Keep His commandments. We are called to obey Him. As Christians, we will desire to live an obedient life.
That does not mean will we never make mistakes. But it does we will make it a priority in our life to grow and strive to improve. And when we do make mistakes we will ask for forgiveness. Study the virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman and ask God to show you how you can implement them in your life.
Understand that grace is a gift and there is nothing you can do to earn salvation. Jesus came and died for you so that you might have everlasting life with Him for eternity. But now apart from the law the righteousness of God has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe.
There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.
Learn more about my book, 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman here or click the button below to purchase. You can use this printable two page pdf as a Bible study guide to learn more about the virtuous woman and how you become a Proverbs 31 Woman today.
Join A Virtuous Woman's community where you'll find freedom from perfection and the confidence to live your life with purpose. Your email address will not be published.
Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting. Leave this field empty.
Menu Skip to right header navigation Skip to content Skip to secondary navigation Skip to primary sidebar Skip to footer. I have good news for you! Proverbs 26, Proverbs 29 — 31, Matthew 37, John 15, Psalm 15 2. Proverbs 28, Proverbs 26, Proverbs 6, Deuteronomy 6, Luke 16 4. Proverbs 12, Proverbs 15, Proverbs 20, 1 Corinthians 13 6. Proverbs 14, Proverbs 16, Proverbs 18, 1 Timothy 6: 10, Ephesians 5: 23, Deuteronomy 22, Numbers 26 7.
Proverbs 13, Proverbs 16, Proverbs 24, Proverbs 31, Philippians 2: 14 8. Proverbs 13, Proverbs 19, Proverbs 27, Ecclesiastes 3, Proverbs 9, Philippians Proverbs 10, Proverbs 21 — 22, Proverbs 24Isaiah 10, 1 Timothy 2: 9, 1 Peter 3: 1 — 6 Are you beginning to see how you can apply these verses to your life? What does it mean to be a Proverbs 31 Woman? In reference, the passage begins: The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.
Who was the Proverbs 31 Woman? Is it possible to live up to the idealistic portrayal of the virtuous woman? For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ. Bible Study Guide Join A Virtuous Woman's community where you'll find freedom from perfection and the confidence to live your life with purpose.
There was an error submitting your subscription. Please try again. First Name. Email Address. We use this field to detect spam bots. If you fill this in, you will be marked as a spammer. Comments Amen its awesome to read other women believe like this and not go by what society thinks!!!!
My Fiance and I have been having many relationship issues since we made the decision to spend the rest of our lives together. He is 53 and I am This morning in my quiet time with the lord, his spirit spoke gently but firmly to me that I should not be looking at his character flaws but that I needed to look within myself I needed to become a Proverbs 31 woman.
So here I am Could some of my sisters in Christ come alonside me and give me the gentle direction I need? I would like to do a self-study on this I pray you aren't just living together I have learned the hard way.
God looks at our hearts individually and as a married couple, individually and as a team. I am in the 19th year of a VERY difficult marriage, being unequally yoked. Read Proverbs This is what God expects of us as wives.
He will work in things in your heart to line up with the Word of God. He also looks at our spouse's heart. What has always been my stumbling block is that although I have worked very diligently to have a clean heart and follow God's instructions about respecting my husband, I felt God was not moving fast enough for me and tried to fix my husband's selfish ways, hot temper, disrespect of mr, etc.
God is not on our time table and I find that I have actually hindered his growth. Only recently has he shown any desire to change. God has told me many times to take my hands off my husband so HE can work on him. This is an extremely difficult cross to bear.
I pray you ask God for specific guidance. Nancy, thank you for sharing some of your story with us. It's so easy to jump ahead of God sometimes!
God bless you! Amen to that. All in Gods timing sweetie, not ours.
I have to remind myself of that on a daily basis. All in Gods timing Melissa, I really appreciate hearing those words. I'm in a very similar situation and really needed that encouragement. I was ready to walk away, no run, but God is telling me to stand in place and let Him go to work. I was becoming weak and was ready to give up. Because of disobedience, I went unequally yoked. I'm learning the hard way God warned us. Being a virtuous wife is not easy and only by keeping our minds stayed on Christs love can any of us ever over come our weak sinful nature.
So by your husband seeing Gods love in you and by your being a living example he can be drawn to Christ and still this can only only by much prayer by you and others interceding for him before the throne of God and much patience on your part and those in your prayer group can this be made possible.
So He has shown that in order to save a life we must sacrifice our wills so Gods will can be done in us just as it is heaven. I want to be a proverbs 31woman to walk in Gods ways forever.
This was a very insightful piece. I am married but did not realize the necessity of being a Proverbs 31 woman until after I was married; now I am playing catch-up in a sense. Pieces such as this one inspire, teach, and encourage me. Thank you for ministering to me! My non-believing husband has been preaching all this to me even though he does not know anything about Christianity.
The sad part which in a way I should see it as awesome cause God has called to seek Him, my husband of ten years has left me and my 2 little ones again. Since we can't hear anything from our spouses we do not follow through, we have to hear from someone else, this time if I had trusted Christ when we separated the first time and learned what a virtous woman is, I may not be where I am at.
All I could do is pray for peace and wisdom and the holy spirit will enter us. I have to become this, but not for him, but for me and the eyes of the Lord. This has been rough, society makes it so hard I was an independant woman, making money, had the car, had the condo, trying to be up to par with men. All it got me was a broken family. My Christian bestfriend and I joke, terrible to say but it is a joke" damn that woman that pressed for equal rights for women" Lol.
Now we not only have to do the above but work full time and trying to fight for those manly jobs, and if we get, we will always get paid less : ladies I urge to carry yourselves this way We will always be women I'am a mother of 9 wounderful childern.
And It get's hard at time's and iI need a l ittle pick me up. The right way. Thanks ladies, I was a wife of 20yrs. I can say the person I am today I would not have dated my ex. I hv dated, but now that my kids are grown and I have granddaughters I have been working on me. As I was reading 1 of my spiritual books it spoke of a Proverbs 31 woman I wanted to know what is a Proverbs 31 woman, that's how I got to this website. As pastor T. Jakes put it I Google it that's how I got he.
I happen to come pass you site while I was searching definitions in the bible. You did a great job giving a break down of a virtuous woman.
I plan to share this information with my fellow lady friends that would appreciate this info as well. Well may God Bless you and continue to give you the words to spread the word.
Thank you to all sisters. I need prayers and advice frm you. I have two kids from different fathers and now pregnant for a third one from a man who has two woman as wifes but they living in his country.
I need prayers and a word of advice that will lead me to become a virtuous woman. I was on google looking for inspirational words and came across this sight. I do plan to apply it to my life and pray that god will give me wisdom, knowlege and understanding. I'm married with 2 kids and praying that god will have his way in my life and my husband life and let us become connected to his word and live faithfully by it everyday.
As my name may show I am a man. I am currently separated from my wife of 23 years, our children are hurting as am I, and it comes about because I was not living the life I should have been with my heart and soul devoted to christ.
I did not cheat on her nor abuse her but at the same time I did not please her as she deserved. I am back before our lord now seeking his guidance and ever hopeful that she will see the change in me and open her heart.
She befell a path similiar to one I read above in that she entered into the working world and once there she became angry that she was not treated the same, not paid the same but decided she was better off on her own than in a marriage to someone that did not provide her with the love she thought she deserved.
Strange in looking back now that she believed this, we never argued, fought, she was the perfect wife in my eyes, always nurturing the children, ever attentive to my needs, but inside she longed for more.
A true man must also honor his wife and walk beside her and support her in attaining that which she needs. Just my thoughts. A man ever hopeful for his wifes love I am in my 40s and married with 3 kids. My very close friend have a fellowship that is based on virtiuos women. She has touched a lot of life in Africa and is just starting in USA. We grew up together and lost contact after marriage.
We recently reconnected and as we are cashing up lost times, she asked if I knew that I am a virtious woman? I have been living almost all the above mentioned qualities of a virtious woman without attention to proverb I said almost because, after reconnecting with her, I realize am short of two.
Being a virtious woman starts with prayers and is very peaceful. Be in prayers especially for your husband and children. Roger, I am glad you are being hopeful, and goodluck. Your post has given me hope as well that one day my husband will see me walk the walk, and hopefully one day the Lord enlightens him, the way he has enlighten you to see your faults.
We must pray for ourselves to continue in the path of our Lord. Today, after talking to my husband, and another disagreement, I had kind of an epiphany Although I am in deep heartache after our encounter Reading Proverbs 31 and having faith I will become that woman brought me peace, because I am doing it for myself and if God wants him and I to be one again then he will come home.
Ms, I will be praying for you tonight. You need to give yourself to Christ wholehearted, pray for peace and wisdom. He is giving you this 3rd child for a reason, stay close to him, trust in him.
For I know the plans I have for you! Declares the Lord, plans to prosper you, and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah Put this all over the house in stickies. I have stickies everywhere in my home, car, work, books, bible, anywhere I bump into everyday to keep me focused. Good luck to all. Do they even exist? Because women like this seem extremely rare in today's times. John, Yes we do still exist, it took me a long time to get to where I am with God, and I have been single now 13 yrs, but I know now I am secure in my walk and would love to meet a great christian guy who is on fire for God.
Becoming a Proverbs 31 woman isn't about being perfect. These 10 Virtues of the Proverbs 31 Woman demonstrate how, as Christian women today, we I'm single and I believe God placed the desire to live right and work according to. I mean, asking to meet for coffee with the Proverbs 31 Woman? Normal young women don't even talk to three thousand-year-old metaphorical. The Single Proverbs 31 Woman: A Guide to Being Beautiful Inside & Out (The Single Proverbs 31 Woman Series) - Kindle edition by Alice Giraud. Religion.
Its hard to find someone who believes the way you do. But I know what I want and wont settle for anything less for my walk. Thanks Melissa for sharing this. Breaking it down into points 1 makes it easier to understand,apply and to do a self appraisal.
God bless you Melissa. Glory be to God for all women out there who are enjoying their marriage and living the virtuous woman life. For those having some hard time in their marriage, please dont be discouraged, have faith for with God all things are possible. Hi I enjoy reading your page. It encourage me. To be a proverbs thirty one woman god richly bless you. Thank you for listing the 10 attributes of a virtuous woman.
I am beginning a new group crafts, teaching, support for ladies within our church and community. I am planning to use Proverbs 31 as our theme. I truly believe that a woman can be a virtuous woman without being a doormat. God has blessed me with a wonderful husband that I've had the privilege of sharing almost 30 years with along with four children who are now grown and beginning families of their own.
Although many men see Proverbs 31 as a way to "control" their wife's behavior and attitude, they fail to see that the Bible also gives specific mandates to men also--particularly in how to behave towards their wife! Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter are very specific in saying a husband should have the same care for the comfort of his wife which he has for himself. A husband should see his wife as one with himself. As a man protects his own body from cold, hunger, sickness, and suffering so he should regard and treat his wife.
A man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. I have always loved the following poem: Woman was created from the rib of man She was not made from his head to top him Nor from his feet, to be trampled on.
She was made from his side, to be equal to him From under his arm to be protected by him From near his heart to be loved by him. Although our marriage has had ups and downs, we've survived the rough times and rejoiced in the good times together with the guidance of our Lord Jesus.
As a young wife of 17 especially during the rough timesI often referred to Proverbs 31 as an encouraging guideline of what I should be doing to bring about joy in my family. I continue to use Proverbs 31 as my inspiration. Let us all as virtuous women always strive to make our home and life a place of joy and comfort for the man God has given us to share our life with.
Charlotte, thank you for your comment. I enjoyed the poem! You are so right - we are made to compliment our husbands, to stand by his side.
Thank you, I was reading Proverbs 31 and wanted to put the words into an invitation for a special woman in my life and your website help tremendously. God Bless You! After 32 years of marriage I can only say how thankful I am to God for giving me such a wonderful wife.
I have often read Proverbs 31 and tried to put my wife in those scriptures. It wasn't until the storms came and the winds blew hard on our relationship that I realized how much of a virtuous woman I had in my home. For the men that may be reading this please understand that beauty is only skin deep but ugly is to the bone, when beauty is gone, ugly holds its own. Your wife may not be able to compete with your secretary or the the nice young lady that thinks you're all that and then some but your wife is the true beauty in all of this.
Charlotte, your entry was magnificent. Question for anyone. So what happens if you are separated?
Ten years ago I memorized the majority of Proverbs As a twenty-year-old single young woman, I wasn't exactly sure how to implement what. In Part 1 of the Single Proverbs 31 Woman, I shared about a mother's advice to her son, King Lemuel, to find a single woman who possessed. Read: "Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised." Proverbs NKJV.
Do I start and continue doing these things? He feels he needs to work on himself, whereas I feel I can work on myself and us because part of us is me. Had we know of Christian beliefs, Such as proverbs 31 and all else in scripture about marriage maybe I would have known better, and I say me because I did the opposite of all 10 virtues, in turn degrading, disrespecting, embarrassing him Can't even start.
He now has no trust in me, without understanding I have Christ in my life today and forever. Carmen, I know this must be a difficult time for you. All I can say is that if your husband refuses to work on your marriage together, then all you can do is work on yourself, pray for your husband, and give your burdens, worries, and fears to God. He knows exactly what you and your husband need right now.
Melissa, thank you! I know I must leave him alone. His truck route is my neighborhood, he comes home all the time. Most of his clothes is here. If i cook he eats. We are cordial and he is the main breadwinner and still pays all the bills, takes care of our financial affairs, the house Carmen, it sounds like he's still invested in the life you have together Read 1 Peter 3. Your words have the power to convert your husband. If you know he'll be home at a certain time why not trying to seduce him?
It might open the door to better communication. I don't know.Proverbs 31 Woman In-Depth Bible Study (Delight Series #2)
You may have tried that already! Whatever you do, pray about it first. And don't give up hope. If he's a good man with a good heart, he's worth the effort! Thanks again Melissa, I am finally feeling Christ is truly there I know it will be okay!
I just love him unconditionally, but I know our Lord will give me strength to make it.
Proverbs 31 woman single
I read 1 Peter 3, it's perfect that is how I feel Once again thank you for your support! I am a pastor from Kenya and work with a team many pastors and tomorrow Am having pastors' wives meting. Thank you for this wonderful web. Please allow me to use this material to them. God bless. I am happy that today there is some one who is passionate about the gospel truth about how a woman per say is supposed to be; to reflect what the original plan of God was for her.
Being a virtuous woman is not instant but rather a lifestyle we do adopt with time. I encourage us ladies to start living out these say principles. Day by Day we will get there. Lets make our husbands proud We can make it; lets get started. I wish I had this information before getting married.
I wish I put Christ first in my life as a young woman. I wouldn't have made the mistakes I made or suffered from the abuse of men.
God would have protected me. All the answers on how to live are in the bible. Now I am middle aged and alone. I am too afraid to trust men. I am just praying that my two boys will walk the walk and find virtuous women and be kind to them. Melissa, this is a very inspiring post. I have been recently trying to become more like this and stumbling upon this inspired me to start blogging about my journey.
Thank you for sharing and I hope that you would stop by and check it out. Ashlee, I am so glad you stopped by for a visit! I hope you will come back often. God bless you on your journey to serve God while serving your family! I was looking up the word Virtuous and stumbled on your site; then after reading your readers comments it provoked me to comment, I've suffered a broken marriage after 20 years and our children of 4 has been tramatized a great deal over a selfish divorce on my exwifes part-what is sad is we both are Christians and believe in God n His son Jesus Christ I only believe that one day my ex will see our mistakes and forgive herself so we can move into a better compatible place where the spirit of God rsides, for our children sake.
This page is so encouraging. I have been married almost 3 years now and I have been having major martial problems. However I am trust God to change my heart. I have stopped pointing fingers at my husband and have decided to search within myself and see where I went wrong.
I'm trusting God to work this out for us. Shelley, I am so glad you were blessed by A Virtuous Woman today. I pray for healing in your marriage! With God ALL things are possible!! What you have created is beautiful. I strive to have all 10! My husband strayed from our marriage many times, and put himself first. He was very gullible to temptation. The media makes it so very easy for them.
The 10 Virtues of a Proverbs 31 Woman
I believe we have to be the strong ones when it calls for it and be ready to hand over the yoke when they are ready. I remind myself daily, it is God's time, not my time. God has rewarded me with a husband who has renewed his faith and straps on his armor now daily, to resist temptation.
He sees me now, as a treasure rather then looking past. So, yes! Let go and let God. I believe he led me to this wonderful site to remind me of my duties as well. To look forward and not back. To forgive frees me. I pray for my fellow sisters! Many thanks to you, Melissa, and what you have created. Melissa,as i search around to find scripture to read i came across your site,only the lord got me there,because i have no idea how i got there,but i'm glad i did.
This is awesome, I am starting a group of reading and teaching women based on Titus and Proverbs is my theme to read and introduce today.
God Bless. I have been in a relationship for three years off and on. I was confused and kept dragging my last relationship into my future. Therefore, my fiance is tired now and told me this week that he does not want to be with me. But the Lord put christian people in my life and I realized that the companion I have has been great to me.
I ask the Lord to please allow me to view every with virtuous women. Hello everyone, I'm in a whirlwind, life has divided my wife and I to the point I'm not sure we will make into together. My wife says she gave up life, says she doesn't know if she wants to be married or live life. I'm beyond heart broken, we haven't divorced, and we haven't filled for separation.
I've prayed and fasted, and everything I can think of but she is like stone. She only responds to messages never steps first I'm lost if you all have advice or willing to pray for my wife and I greatly appreciate it. Hi Devon I've been married almost 4 years with two childern. Marriage is a convent that the devil fights to destroy and I can testify of this in my own marriage about stuff that my husband and I have gone through.
But one thing is true that God is faithful and we must put ALL our trust in him that nor matter what storms come to battle against our marriages God is in control and HE will calm the storms. I came back from church today I felt a need for a change this season. And I thought of checking for the word 'being a virtuous woman, so I came across your website. The write-up really inspired me these will build up my life.
I'm single and I believe God placed the desire to live right and work according to Gods principles I will make it a point of duty to be a virtuous woman, because being a virtuous woman is not instant but rather a way of life.
May God grant us the grace not only to be virtuous but to make it to heaven. God bless you mallisa and meet you the point of your needs.
For those going through different marriage and life challenges may God reveal him self and work things out to his own glory. God bless you.
I'm soo happy and excited to have found your blog!!